Anton Guinea
Entrepreneur, Speaker, bestselling author, and founder of The Guinea Group of Companies. For over 15 years, Anton has helped leaders move their teams to become psychologically safe, physically safe and overall better versions of themselves.
Can your team trust you when the conversation gets difficult?
I think this is one of the simplest tests of leadership.
It is easy to talk about trust when everything is going well. People are hitting their targets. The team is getting along. Nobody is challenging a decision. Everyone seems happy.
But leadership is tested when something goes wrong.
Someone makes a mistake. A leader misses an expectation. A team member pushes back. A difficult performance conversation needs to happen. A decision needs to be made that not everyone will like.
That is when integrity and respect become visible.
Over the years, I have learnt that people are watching what leaders do far more closely than what they say. They notice whether you keep your word. They notice whether you listen. They notice whether you treat people fairly when you are under pressure.
That is where trust comes from.
Trust is built by what you do
I don’t believe trust is created through a team-building activity, a motivational speech or a statement on the wall.
Trust is built through repeated behaviour.
If I tell someone I will do something, I need to do it.
If I make a mistake, I need to own it.
If I expect accountability from my team, I need to demonstrate accountability myself.
If I ask people to speak openly, I need to be prepared to hear things I may not agree with.
That sounds simple. It isn’t always easy.
The evidence on trust and psychological safety shows that trust affects communication, teamwork, collaboration and the way people behave at work. Psychological safety also gives people greater confidence to ask questions, share ideas, raise concerns and admit mistakes without expecting punishment or ridicule.
That matters because a team that doesn’t trust its leader will eventually learn to protect itself.
People stop speaking up.
They keep problems to themselves.
They tell you what they think you want to hear.
And once that happens, you don’t have a high-performing team. You have a team that has learnt to stay safe.
Respect is more than being nice
I want to make an important distinction here.
Respect is not the same as being nice.
You can be respectful and still challenge someone.
You can respect someone and still hold them accountable.
You can respect someone and tell them that their behaviour isn’t good enough.
In fact, avoiding those conversations can be disrespectful to everyone else on the team.
Think about the person who consistently arrives late, misses commitments or speaks poorly to colleagues.
If I allow that behaviour to continue because I don’t want an uncomfortable conversation, what message am I sending to the people who are doing the right thing?
I’m telling them that the standard doesn’t really matter.
That isn’t respect.
Respect means treating people like adults. It means being honest with them. It means listening to their perspective while still being willing to make a decision.
Research from research on respect in workplace culture also points to respect as a foundation of organisational culture. I see this play out constantly in the organisations I work with.
People don’t need their leader to agree with everything they say.
They need to know that they will be treated fairly when they say it.
Integrity shows up under pressure
Anyone can look like a good leader when the pressure is low.
What happens when the pressure goes up?
This is where I believe integrity matters most.
When you’re under pressure, do you blame someone else?
Do you become short with people?
Do you change the standard because holding someone accountable feels uncomfortable?
Do you make promises you have no intention of keeping?
Or do you stay consistent?
For me, integrity means doing what you said you would do, even when it becomes inconvenient.
It also means admitting when you got it wrong.
I’ve worked with plenty of leaders who think admitting a mistake will make them look weak.
I see it differently.
A leader who can say, “I got that wrong. Here’s what I’m going to do about it,” demonstrates something powerful to their team.
They show that accountability applies to everyone.
That includes the person at the top.
Accountability can build trust
This is where some leaders get stuck.
They think holding people accountable will damage the relationship.
So they delay the conversation.
They soften the message.
They give another chance without addressing the real issue.
Then the same behaviour happens again.
I recently wrote about why holding people accountable instead of trying to be liked is such an important leadership shift.
Accountability doesn’t have to be aggressive.
It can be calm.
It can be respectful.
It can sound like:
“This is what we agreed. This is what happened. Help me understand the gap, and let’s work out what needs to happen next.”
That conversation treats the person with respect while still making the standard clear.
That’s leadership.
Clear expectations show respect
Another way leaders demonstrate respect is by being clear about what they expect.
I see managers become frustrated with supervisors because they haven’t met an expectation that was never properly explained.
“Take more ownership.”
“Communicate better.”
“Be more proactive.”
These phrases sound reasonable, but what do they actually mean?
If I tell a supervisor to take ownership, I need to explain what ownership looks like in practice.
What decisions can they make?
What should they escalate?
What conversations are they responsible for?
What does good performance look like?
My recent article on setting clear expectations with your team explores this in more detail.
Clear expectations make accountability fairer.
They also show respect because people aren’t left guessing what you want from them.
People remember how you make them feel
One of the conversations I’ve had that really connects with this is my podcast episode with Jennifer McGuire, where we talked about integrity, respect and what it really means to lead people well.
One idea that stayed with me from that conversation is that people-first leadership isn’t about keeping everyone happy. It’s about genuinely valuing the people you lead and making decisions that reflect that value.
That distinction matters.
You can care about your people and still hold them accountable. You can listen to someone and still disagree with them. You can respect someone and still tell them that their performance needs to improve.
For me, that’s where integrity comes in.
If I say people matter, my behaviour has to prove it.
That means listening when someone raises a concern. It means having the conversation you’ve been putting off. It means giving people honest feedback rather than telling them what they want to hear.
It also means remembering that leadership isn’t about being the most popular person in the room.
It’s about being someone people can trust.
If you’d like to hear the full conversation with Jennifer, you can listen to our conversation about integrity, respect and people-first leadership.
Leadership starts with what you model
If you want more integrity in your team, start by looking at your own behaviour.
If you want more respect, show respect when you’re frustrated.
If you want accountability, own your own mistakes.
If you want people to speak honestly, listen when they challenge you.
If you want supervisors to take responsibility, give them genuine responsibility.
And if you want people to trust you, be consistent enough that they know what they can expect from you.
I’ve always believed that leadership is about what happens when the pressure is on. That’s why our work at The Guinea Group focuses heavily on helping leaders stay in control, demonstrate care and have the courage to make the difficult decisions.
If your organisation needs support developing those behaviours, our leadership training programs can help your leaders build practical skills they can use with their teams.
For leaders who need ongoing support, we also provide leadership coaching and development to help them work through real situations, reflect on their behaviour and strengthen their leadership capability.
If you want to strengthen trust, respect and accountability across your leadership team, I’d be happy to have a conversation about what you’re seeing in your organisation.
You can contact The Guinea Group to start the conversation, or explore how we can support your leaders through training and coaching.
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